With the New Year, I have gotten new caution. I’m sure many of my TTC couples would come to my defense. But, instead I'm sure that children are a life changer. How can anyone ever be prepared or for that matter to be absolutely 100% sure about parenthood? I’m sure that there are many who can, but I struggle daily with what I want for lunch. What I will say is that I am very frugal, and the cost that my husband and I have incurred is not even a tenth of what anyone going through IVF is going to incur.
The truth is there was I time I was desperate and also a
time that I dread becoming a parent. Now in hindsight it may never happen, but I
am not giving up and if it never happens I can adopt. With my own
mother/daughter experience, I don’t believe birth makes someone a true mother.
This caution came from my aunt, who after my surgery asked me
if I was pregnant yet, one of her favorite lines. I mentioned that I was not pregnant, and
that I am at peace as to whether it happens or not. I told her how I see
parents struggling with the financial responsibility of having children, and I that
I would place my faith in God. She quickly mentioned how she wants to be stuck
in the same boat as her.
The very day of my D&C, I told her how my doctor’s appointment was.
She said, “be careful what you wish for”. Even now I do not know what to reply. Either
I should try and get pregnant or I shouldn’t? I didn’t ask. She thinks that she
had an infertility issue because she and her husband tried for over a year with
their second child. What I do know is that my husband did not undergo two
painful surgeries only for us to end this project. I know that there
is no fairness in insurance, and I am pretty sure that the ACA is not going to
change that. I know that we were lucky that the insurance paid for my husband’s
surgery. I know that my fertility drugs were expensive as were our IUI’s. I
know that my paperwork for my D&C approval stated abortion and my insurance covered it
with the exception of my copay. I know that terminating a life is covered while
trying to procreate is very expensive. I
leave you with information from the Planned Parenthood healthcare center’s
website. Think about life, and the cost that can be attached to those
who are trying to conceive, and those who are trying not to. Our current government wants taxpayers to pay for birth control. That takes money out of the pockets of those battling a more expensive infertility journey than my own.
© All original content copyright Nancy De Lazzaro
Brannum, 2013-2014
"In-Clinic Abortion Procedures at a Glance
Medical procedures
that end pregnancy
Safe and effective
Available from many
Planned Parenthood health centers
Costs about $300–$950
in the first trimester
Nationwide, the cost at health centers ranges from about
$300 to $1,700 for abortion in the first trimester. The cost is usually more
for a second-trimester abortion. Costs vary depending on how long you've been
pregnant and where you go. Hospitals generally cost mor.e” (plannedparenthood.org)
